Is having sex with an escort cheating?

[toban]

Your wish is almost impossible to achieve, my friend!

My reason for asking is because i have been dating a woman for about 10 months and the relationship has become serious
I am wondering if i should tell her about my attraction to tgirls and that a few times a year i meet tgirl escorts.

My prediction is that if you wish to maintain both your hetersexual relationship and your transsexual friendships then you are going to be in for a lifetime of cheating! I see the chances of your girl agreeing to you having the occasional tryst with some tgirl as totally unacceptable to her, unless of course she is that 1 in a 1,000,000 kind of girl!

If, as you say, the realtionship has become serious does that imply that other than your own dalliance with the occasional Tgirl, you see only each other or does your partner also enjoy the priviledge of enjoying sex occasionally with partners other than you? If you are the only one with the outside sexual interest then surely you will have some difficulty in trying to rationalize your Tgirl escapades with your partner.

As Lola suggests you may be able to test her reaction to your frollicking by sureptitiously arranging for her to view some transgender material and by noting her reaction to that material. If you're really lucky you may find there is room to discuss the topic further. I wouldn't count on that happening though.

Normally a serious relationship will develop into a committed relationship or perhaps even marriage where each partner assumes their partner will be faithful to them only. The oath of loyalty in a marriage makes it even less likely that your partner would be amenable to the occassional dalliance with any special girls such as you have understandably developed a healthy craving for.

[tek1234]

I think its a really big step to tell her about your relationship with tgirl escorts, I can't not share my man with any female and shemales HELL NO !!! I think you have to find the ways or open subjects about shemales step by step...EVERYTHING IN HER EYES ( just read her eyes ) how is her reaction when you open subject about tgirls !!!

if her reaction wasn't what it should have been forget it ( just keep secret for your self )
if she is cool about it than go ahead and share your story with her.

I will give your idea a try LOLA , Thanks

[Flashtrigger]

If you're in a committed relationship with someone, having sex with anyone (escort or not) outside of that partnership is cheating.

Pretty simple. Especially if you've been with her for 10 months and she isn't out fucking other dudes.

Now, if shes anything like my last few exs, and even though they've been sleeping over your house and fucking you for 5 months or so, and they justify sleeping around as "We're just dating, we're not in a relationship" she doesn't need to know jack shit, and go out and fuck whoever you want, because chances are she is.

If shes not out sleeping around you're "exclusive" then it's definitely cheating.

[uniqueall]

For me it is a yes, no matter what circumstances.
but guys...just tell yourself its just a business and relax!

[Ana_Jolie]

Having sex with an escort is a transaction and not an affair. Hence, it is not cheating. I can further elaborate on this if necessary. The fact that a spouse or partner is not approving of the transaction is a different issue.

I have read many times over that clients want to stir away from feeling this interaction is a business transaction. I am sorry this individual sounds like he is looking for people who will say its ok to put his worrying mind at ease. Yes it is cheating. Yes it is a business transaction BUT youre sticking your dick in something or someone so YES it is CHEATING...

[candyhilton]

lol Yes!

if its making out, blowjob, or full on sex, any of the above is obviously yes

But married men and guys that have girlfriends obviously dont give a shit.

But this is how I look at it from my side (on being the other woman).... if its not me, its gonna be someone else!

[Ana_Jolie]

Another thing I would love to see any of these ladies have their man go out and fuck an escort and see how they react. I can promise you it wouldnt go over as good as they are painting it out to be in this topic. Its laughable reading the responses. Makes you sound like a bunch of morally bankrupt self serving assholes.

[Python]

LOL, of course it is cheating.

What forms of cheating certain girls tolerate is a different question.

Is there forms of cheating that is only a slightly wrong vs VERY wrong? Probably.
Fucking your wife's sister/best friend has to be worse than a prostitute etc.

Cheating emotionally is worse in some peoples eyes.

[Flashtrigger]

If you were dating a girl for a long period of time and you found out she was out fucking male escorts, would you view it as cheating unless you explicitly told her it's okay to fuck other people?

I'm just confused as to how theres any question as to if it's cheating. Like do people think if you're paying for the sex it isn't cheating? Doesn't matter if its an escort or not. Doesn't matter what gender the other person you're banging outside of the relationship is.

[tek1234]

If you were dating a girl for a long period of time and you found out she was out fucking male escorts, would you view it as cheating unless you explicitly told her it's okay to fuck other people?

I'm just confused as to how theres any question as to if it's cheating. Like do people think if you're paying for the sex it isn't cheating? Doesn't matter if its an escort or not. Doesn't matter what gender the other person you're banging outside of the relationship is.

I would be ok with her having sex with male escorts ,I do not consider that to be cheating

[toban]

You seem to be asking us to justify your screwing around on your girl

I would be ok with her having sex with male escorts ,I do not consider that to be cheating

Honestly, do you expect us to believe that you would be completely OK with your wife or committed partner telling you "Sorry hon but I just feel the need for a better fuck than you've been giving me lately so I've ordered a really hung stud to come over and I'd like you to bugger off somewhere now till we're done, OK"? Come on now, do you mean to tell us that you wouldn't feel really pissed off and cheated upon while you knew she was getting her jollies with a better stud than you?

If you were so completely convinced that having sex with an escort was not cheating why then would you have asked this question in the first place?

Guys and gals please tell me your thoughts on this subject.Cheating or not?

I am convinced that you actually do know it is not strictly kosher for you to be fucking around with other girls or professional escorts and you are just trying to convince yourself that you are so open-minded that wouldn't mind in the least if your partner screwed around on you too! Maybe you were also hoping that enough others here would agree with you that such screwing around was completely OK or harmless because "everybody" does it.

Even the majority of escorts, both current and former who have responded here do not agree with your position.

As for the argument that seeing an escort is a "business" transaction therefore not cheating is no more a valid argument than saying "Selling "crack cocaine" is strictly a business transaction so therefore it is OK too even though it may destroy the buyers life.

[tek1234]

Honestly, do you expect us to believe that you would be completely OK with your wife or committed partner telling you "Sorry hon but I just feel the need for a better fuck than you've been giving me lately so I've ordered a really hung stud to come over and I'd like you to bugger off somewhere now till we're done, OK"? Come on now, do you mean to tell us that you wouldn't feel really pissed off and cheated upon while you knew she was getting her jollies with a better stud than you?

If you were so completely convinced that having sex with an escort was not cheating why then would you have asked this question in the first place?



I am convinced that you actually do know it is not strictly kosher for you to be fucking around with other girls or professional escorts and you are just trying to convince yourself that you are so open-minded that wouldn't mind in the least if your partner screwed around on you too! Maybe you were also hoping that enough others here would agree with you that such screwing around was completely OK or harmless because "everybody" does it.

Even the majority of escorts, both current and former who have responded here do not agree with your position.

As for the argument that seeing an escort is a "business" transaction therefore not cheating is no more a valid argument than saying "Selling "crack cocaine" is strictly a business transaction so therefore it is OK too even though it may destroy the buyers life.

My girlfriend travels alot as part of her job , sometimes she is gone for 10 days.If she wanted to meet an escort during her trip i would be ok with it,that is much different then what u described

[Tia Phoenixx]

I would be ok with her having sex with male escorts ,I do not consider that to be cheating

As a big whore of the world, with an experience with more than 10,000 guys, an average between 1500 to 2000 men a year..i finally realize that it's not the sex that makes us committed and attached...but it's the mental bond....you know...the compatibility between you and your partner.
Something that is much deeper than skin deep.

Sex is a basic need, just like food. A relationship is way too shallow if we based on merely that need.
I don't mind my man sleeping with other women...as long as he is not mentally attached. I will do the same way of course hahaha

I'm horny...i need to be screwed soon.

Life is (supposed to be) good and exciting...let's make it simple

[Tia Phoenixx]

Another thing I would love to see any of these ladies have their man go out and fuck an escort and see how they react. I can promise you it wouldnt go over as good as they are painting it out to be in this topic. Its laughable reading the responses. Makes you sound like a bunch of morally bankrupt self serving assholes.

I love your avatar candyland...so pretty!

Btw, you are in relationship right now...and i believe is still going strong.
You quit escorting because you wanted it too..and you are just meant to be.

Physically speaking, you can compete with all the girls here in Canada..but your personally does not allow you to do that.
You are not a whore, simply put.

but I am. A whore. I love dicks...and i need them everyday.

Some girls and men are meant to be in a monogamous relationship, some aren't.

Which one is better?

It all depends on you. Yeah...YOU!

[xoxJanexox]

Originally Posted by xoxJanexox
Having sex with an escort is a transaction and not an affair. Hence, it is not cheating. I can further elaborate on this if necessary. The fact that a spouse or partner is not approving of the transaction is a different issue.



[QUOTE]I have read many times over that clients want to stir away from feeling this interaction is a business transaction. I am sorry this individual sounds like he is looking for people who will say its ok to put his worrying mind at ease. Yes it is cheating. Yes it is a business transaction BUT youre sticking your dick in something or someone so YES it is CHEATING...

Now that I have been quoted, I am due for more elaboration.

The main essence of any debate is the diversity of opinions. What some might be perceived as a direct and straight forward question on its shell might turn out to something different by careful examination and probing.

I am not aware of the motives behind raising the question but I strongly believe that it is a very reasonable one and I shall be thankful to the gentleman that initiated this thread. Moreover, the fact as it stands is that the gentleman who initiated this thread is from a different province and in effect not a client or a reasonably foreseeable potential client which should negate any real or potential conflict of interests the could discredit the independence or the impartiality of my analysis.

The legal test of this thread was clearly stated in the question posed: Is having sex with an escort cheating? The phrasing of the question is, in my view, highly relevant to the answer which would have been completely different if the question were: Is having a relationship/affair with an escort cheating?

To illustrate the difference lets pose the question differently:
Is getting off thinking about having sex with and escort cheating?

- If you were to choose "Yes" then there would be no single man faithful on this planet.
- If you were to choose "No" then we are in agreement.
- If you were to argue that the two situations are different, then I would say how about your boyfriend or girlfriend masturbating in front of you thinking about another man or woman?

Cheating is a state of mind that might or might not be coupled with an action. The pure action doesn't qualify to cheating. However, an unfaithful state of mind regardless of the accompanying action qualify for cheating.

For an average hobbyist seeing an escort is merely a transaction which is required by the virtue of men's natural sexual urges to release those tensions and fulfill his own fantasies which he can't pursue at home.

There are, of course, the rare occasions where the hobbyist might misinterpret the whole situation and become heavily involved to a point where what is meant to be a transaction has developed into an an affair. But this is a whole different scenario as the state of mind has changed.