Is having sex with an escort cheating?

[tek1234]

THANK YOU Jane for your reply, You understood the question i asked and thanks for your thoughtful reply.

[xoxJanexox]

As for the argument that seeing an escort is a "business" transaction therefore not cheating is no more a valid argument than saying "Selling "crack cocaine" is strictly a business transaction so therefore it is OK too even though it may destroy the buyers life.

There is a drastic difference between what is immoral/unethical and what is illegal. Hence, the analogy is, in my view, not applicable to the case at bar!

[Ana_Jolie]

I love your avatar candyland...so pretty!

Btw, you are in relationship right now...and i believe is still going strong.
You quit escorting because you wanted it too..and you are just meant to be.

Physically speaking, you can compete with all the girls here in Canada..but your personally does not allow you to do that.
You are not a whore, simply put.

but I am. A whore. I love dicks...and i need them everyday.

Some girls and men are meant to be in a monogamous relationship, some aren't.

Which one is better?

It all depends on you. Yeah...YOU!

Yes it does depend on the person BUT it is cheating when youre in a relationship and youre going to complete a business transaction with an escort or to simply just word it as fucking someone for cash. To say otherwise is just a way for you to cope with hurting the person you "love"... Some people have understandings of the relationship they are in and most others one person is left in the dark to what they really signed up for. Some people like to live in fantasy lands to suit their needs but me I am a realist and always have been. y way of life might not be for everyone but I do it with honesty and dignity. When I worked as an escort I was very open about what I did for work. Did I make friends because of it, maybe? Did I lose friends because of it, probably? One thing I can say though is I did it honestly. Thats more than I can say for most people.

[aguyoutthere1]

Only if you get caught.

Correction, only if you get caught, AND SHE TAKES HALF YOUR STUFF.


KC

[toban]

I do not believe that we can come to a definitive answer to the question tek1234 has asked of us " Is having sex with an escort cheating? " for the simple reason that there are conflicting ways of looking at the situation where partners in a relationship are free to have sex with others.

Some others and myself have stated our views based upon what I will call a traditional or moral concept while tek1234 has approached it with what I will call an "open relationship" concept where each partner agrees to allow the other partner to engage sexually with others of their choice. It is unusual that he specifies that his lover may see "escorts" so it must be assumed that he follows xoxJanexox's concept that sexual "transactions" are not considered as cheating!

So, it appears that tek1234 is of the view that his partner should be free to see escorts during her times away from him.

My girlfriend travels alot as part of her job , sometimes she is gone for 10 days.If she wanted to meet an escort during her trip i would be ok with it,that is much different then what u described

I would be ok with her having sex with male escorts ,I do not consider that to be cheating

Now, if it is fine for her to pay for sex during their separation then obviously the reverse should also be true for him but yet he asks the forum for advice as to whether that could be seen as cheating.

[tek1234]

[QUOTE=toban;389911]I do not believe that we can come to a definitive answer to the question tek1234 has asked of us " Is having sex with an escort cheating? " for the simple reason that there are conflicting ways of looking at the situation where partners in a relationship are free to have sex with others.

Some others and myself have stated our views based upon what I will call a traditional or moral concept while tek1234 has approached it with what I will call an "open relationship" concept where each partner agrees to allow the other partner to engage sexually with others of their choice. It is unusual that he specifies that his lover may see "escorts" so it must be assumed that he follows xoxJanexox's concept that sexual "transactions" are not considered as cheating!

So, it appears that tek1234 is of the view that his partner should be free to see escorts during her times away from him.



Now, if it is fine for her to pay for sex during their separation then obviously the reverse should also be true for him but yet he asks the forum for advice as to whether that could be seen as cheating.



The reason i started the thread was to get other peoples thoughts on the subject.I was wondering if i should tell my girlfriend about the escorts.Just because i am ok with her meeting escorts does not mean that she will feel the same way.The point of a thread on here is to get as many thoughts as possiable because everyone has different points of view.I carefully read all the replies and i am trying to decide my next step.

[toban]

Thanks for the clarification tek1234 !

The reason i started the thread was to get other peoples thoughts on the subject.I was wondering if i should tell my girlfriend about the escorts.Just because i am ok with her meeting escorts does not mean that she will feel the same way.The point of a thread on here is to get as many thoughts as possiable because everyone has different points of view.I carefully read all the replies and i am trying to decide my next step.

I think I can understand your dilemma now that you have more fully explained your thinking. I appears that you did not ask the question about cheating to justify your own relationship with transexual girls but to help you understand how your girlfriend might see the issue of you paying for sex with an escort.

If I understood you correctly then, it seems that you are hoping that your current GG girlfriend will not see your fondness for TG girls and your having paid sex with them as a form of cheating. You hope she will see it more as a financial tranaction than as a love affair.

I hope this discussion has given you some help in coming to grips with your problem and I wish you well in its resolution. That is a hair puller for sure! The dilemma is that if your girlfriend views your fondness for TG escorts as cheating on her then you face the probable loss your GG girlfriend.

Good luck!

[Foreskinned]

Put your shoes on the others feet, whadda you think then, it is pretty clear

[Layla LegendZ]

G

Guys and gals please tell me your thoughts on this subject.Cheating or not?

ummm I don't even know why people bothered to write more then a one word answer and it's yes !

[queenie]

If u are in relationship " yeeeeeeeesssssss"

HAVING SEX WITH AN ESCORT IS CHEATING " YESSSS" IF U ARE IN RELATIONSHIP

BUT IF U ARE SINGLE U ARE " FREE LIKE A BIRD""FLY HIGH"

BECAUSE I BELIEVE " LOVE" IS STILL MOST POWERFUL & GREATEST OF ALL...

THAN "CHEATING"...

MY ADVICE IS KEEP LOVING YOUR LOVEONE... U NEVER EVER REGRETS...

[drdrdr]

of course!

[tek1234]

update

After reading all the replies I decided to tell her about my attraction to transgender escorts & that I have been with a few while we were dating.It did not go well & now she is my ex girlfriend.I guess being honest sometimes means losing someone.This happened about 6 months ago & I recently started dating again

[merelypink]

ahh yes!!!!!!!

[toban]

A scenario that will help you avoid cheating during Lucy's visit!

After reading all the replies I decided to tell her about my attraction to transgender escorts & that I have been with a few while we were dating.It did not go well & now she is my ex girlfriend.I guess being honest sometimes means losing someone.This happened about 6 months ago & I recently started dating again

I assume that you don't have too much invested in this new relationship just yet so with little to lose and while Lucy?s currently advertising in town you might consider making your new GF aware of the new local ad you?ve accidentally come across. Just by that alone you may be able to gauge her reaction to this atypical new visitor and therefore TG's in general.

If she appears to not be taken aback about what she sees, then you may not lose her because of your interests in TG's. She could even be so impressed by the photos of Lucy and curious enough to discuss it further with you.

Now I know it?s extremely unlikely, but if you were to be exceptionally lucky she might even be so VERY receptive and so curious about shemales that she wonders aloud about what it would be like for her to be with such a girl! Now this would be the ideal time to mention that you've heard that Lucy will also meet with couples and then offer to offer to go with her and if she agrees then then you will definitely not be cheating on your GF!

But, could your finances handle that?

[anat89]

Guys and gals please tell me your thoughts on this subject.Cheating or not?

I feel like if you have to ask that you don't really know why cheating is a bad thing or what it means to be committed to someone.