Hate Breeds Hate

[Shyla Wild]

I have been looking at the threads lately, and I would like to know what is going on? Attacks in Review section, Attacks on views, Old grudges being brought back, etc. I have been guilty of this as much as many others.

Everyone, we need to step back and look at ourselves. Does behavior this make us better people? Does berating and belittling others make us feel better about ourselves? We are all people here. Showing empathy towards each other seems to be getting lost here somewhere. We are a community that suffers many setbacks and hardships, and yet we bash on each other. So this make things easier for us? Does it make things better for us? When I speak of ?us? I mean everyone. Guys and Girls.

There are many boards that have very tolerance for behavior I have witnessed here many times. I mentioned tgirlforums on another board and got banned. But people, banning is not the answer. Learning to co-exist is. People have different views. Feel free to argue and discuss these views. That is the beauty of freedom of speech. Understand, that some views people may find offensive. People are all different. That is what makes a person special. That is also the reason empathy is important. Put yourself in the other persons shoes.

In ending my rant I quote Alan Alda:

Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won?t come in.

[Rantsalot]

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Shyla as you know I had started a thread similar to this a few weeks ago but felt for the good of everyone to take it down. I've stated this in the past on other threads that you can say and preach a million times over to a person or group of people to change and still they will not, even if the outcome would be beneficial. A person or people either willingly or by some extreme traumatic event caused unto them will change otherwise it generally doesn't happen. We have all experienced hate/dislike offline obviously and especially online either if it is by those who publicly say snide remarks or send horrid PMs. With hate / dislike those who bring it about immediately fall into a defensive position and no matter how hard you try will do whatever it is they can to bring either the situation .... i,e, a tax hike or a person i.e. a politician down. We are animals after all.

Then again thankfully the majority of people do have a sense of reason. No one can totally live on emotion without reason, not unless they wish to be insane . Over the course of time people learn to deal with things in a fashion best suited to them.

Yep. Lots of hate/dislike out there. You've experienced Shyla I am sure as have other forum members and of course myself.


I just got 1 thing to say to those that hate/dislike:

You wanna hate whats happening out there .... wanna waste your energy and time doing and saying stuff that's gonna hurt you and others in the end? Fine, screw off then. I want nothing to do with you. Me? I'm just gonna watch some Dukes of Hazzard.

[Jizellemoore]

yes but your position within this still exists as you are a moderator, which ultimately you should do what? try and control the situation. funny how when it involves working girls and potential cat fights, you're quick to close and lock down a thread, however when there's a directly targeted comment aimed to alter someone's reputation, all of sudden your arms are in the air and you don't want to be involved. specifically when it's your boss who's part of it as well.

just pointing out the facts, and yes I agree you're not involved in the history of the situation. no one was until he felt the need to try and make me out to be a sell out, for cock specifically. Funny wording since this is an escort forum...hmm craig you really dont' think do you?

anyways you should really be deleting it, if you feel it's breeding hate. that's how you're involved. You have an ability to make a decision on the continuation of the thread and you made one to let it continue on. Simply you could've locked it, sent us all a message warning us to chill the fuck out, deleted the comments and moved on. yet you further highlight and use this obviously sensitive subject as an example to push a broad message of everyone needs to just get along.

I've admitted from the beginning any and all of my participation in this tango we're doing. I've admitted to making mistakes, stepping forward and being sorry for them, moving on from it and utilizing my place here for promotion of my current projects and right now will have no problem admitting that some of the things I have said are mean and hurtful. But none have been short of the truth and sadly as we all should know, the truth is hard to hear if you refuse to believe it and can appear very hurtful.

[flick]

no love

No Shyla, there is no hate when it comes from sitting behind the computer and typing a message. Absolutely none whatsoever. However, with that said:

Respect is earned, not given..................

[Rantsalot]

Ponder this

When we treat people merely as they are, they will remain as they are. When we proudly treat them as if they were what they should be, they will proudly become what they should be.

[Shyla Wild]

yes but your position within this still exists as you are a moderator, which ultimately you should do what? try and control the situation. funny how when it involves working girls and potential cat fights, you're quick to close and lock down a thread, however when there's a directly targeted comment aimed to alter someone's reputation, all of sudden your arms are in the air and you don't want to be involved. specifically when it's your boss who's part of it as well.

You complained that you were bored. You came in stating that you were not afraid of a little blood. These are your exact words. It happens to you and then you get upset with me for not moderating your situation? As for closing threads, I closed one thread in the last 6 months. I am not the only moderator here. And the thread that was closed
was discussed with that person and I personally.

anyways you should really be deleting it, if you feel it's breeding hate. that's how you're involved. You have an ability to make a decision on the continuation of the thread and you made one to let it continue on. Simply you could've locked it, sent us all a message warning us to chill the fuck out, deleted the comments and moved on. yet you further highlight and use this obviously sensitive subject as an example to push a broad message of everyone needs to just get along.

I think you are taking things a bit personal here. Your thread comments were not the only ones I mentioned. Like I said before, I don't not know the history of this. There are moderators here with more seniority then me that I believe would be better placed to make a call on that thread. You continue to refer to Crag as my Boss. But he does not pay me and I am not his employee. I moderate as per his rules and common sense. He does not tell me how to moderate or question the calls I make on some of the comments or threads.

I've admitted from the beginning any and all of my participation in this tango we're doing. I've admitted to making mistakes, stepping forward and being sorry for them, moving on from it and utilizing my place here for promotion of my current projects and right now will have no problem admitting that some of the things I have said are mean and hurtful. But none have been short of the truth and sadly as we all should know, the truth is hard to hear if you refuse to believe it and can appear very hurtful.

I understand that there is a past between you two. I don't know the history nor what happened. It is not that I refuse to hear it or believe it, it's just that I have no idea what you are taking about. I do not talk to Crag for weeks at a time. Most of the talk between us happens openly on the forum.

[Alexis]

I remember saying something like this a while ago too..

I just sit back and watch.. see who's saying shit and take notes..

Paying attention to who says shit here isn't really a big thing..

I wait till I meet the person and then decide if I like them or not..

The petty rivalry and bickering happens everywhere not just here..

I just have to bite my tongue sometimes, well lots of times.. lol..

What happens here I take with a grain of salt..

I have however lost some respect for certain individuals here both males and TS over what they have said done and publicly posted here and elsewhere. As well as for certain things that were posted and then removed by the admins that posted such things. It's important to be considerate and if you have dirt on someone keep your mouth shut and be respectful..

Face it we're all Ho's and we're bitchy and after money..

But we don't need to behave like children..

There's someone here that's recently caught my eye.. she's definitely someone I'll be watching out for..

One thing I really do is pay attention to what's going on in my backyard..

[Jizellemoore]

Face it we're all Ho's and we're bitchy and after money..


There's someone here that's recently caught my eye.. she's definitely someone I'll be watching out for..

HAHAHAHA couldn't be truer words..sadly to say however it's the reality that if you aren't out for yourself, no one else is! Who is it that you're watching out for?

[Shyla Wild]

it's the reality that if you aren't out for yourself, no one else is! Who is it that you're watching out for?

Co-sign

[Alexis]

HAHAHAHA couldn't be truer words..sadly to say however it's the reality that if you aren't out for yourself, no one else is! Who is it that you're watching out for?

It's a secret..

Apparently you're someone I should keep an eye on to..

Yes.. Look out for number one.. if you don't you can't help anyone else anyhow..

I much prefer being happy and having fun..

Try and create a win win situation every time I can..

[Jizellemoore]

It's a secret..

Apparently you're someone I should keep an eye on to..
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I hope you're keeping a good and naughty eye on me :P tee hee xxx

[Dita Dior]

I hope you're keeping a good and naughty eye on me :P tee hee xxx

lol!
i just think this thread is stupid, because people are going to fight no one is going to learn even if you do get "scolded on"
i will never learn, and everyone needs to realise that.

if someone comes at me, i'm going to go head on and go full force.

and i'm too lazy to see who wrote above saying that it's only words across the internet.
thats exactly it, some of these bitches are too scared to contact me in real life.
call me, come up to me. i'll talk it out if i have to get physical i will, but as for now these cowardless emails are pissing me off.
so no wonder i speak my voice.

[Shyla Wild]

lol!
i just think this thread is stupid, because people are going to fight no one is going to learn even if you do get "scolded on"
i will never learn, and everyone needs to realise that.

if someone comes at me, i'm going to go head on and go full force.

and i'm too lazy to see who wrote above saying that it's only words across the internet.
thats exactly it, some of these bitches are too scared to contact me in real life.
call me, come up to me. i'll talk it out if i have to get physical i will, but as for now these cowardless emails are pissing me off.
so no wonder i speak my voice.

?Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.?

Benjamin Franklin

[Rockheart]

http://tgirlforums.com/yabbse/showth...her-Kevin-Dong

Ironic that the person who changed the direction of the topic of this thread was the owner of the site himself....
You wanna call peace...give him a call please!
I called peace a long time ago. There's no hate coming from my end I'm not the one going around telling people to die...
oh wait I forgot..I have no class..
I'll shut my pretty little mouth now mwah

That is absolute Bull shit.
I PM'd you and told you that you are not welcome here.
You took my PM posted it publically and then attacked me.

I am sorry but I am not pulling punches anymore.

[Rockheart]

lol!
i just think this thread is stupid, because people are going to fight no one is going to learn even if you do get "scolded on"
i will never learn, and everyone needs to realise that.

if someone comes at me, i'm going to go head on and go full force.

and i'm too lazy to see who wrote above saying that it's only words across the internet.
thats exactly it, some of these bitches are too scared to contact me in real life.
call me, come up to me. i'll talk it out if i have to get physical i will, but as for now these cowardless emails are pissing me off.
so no wonder i speak my voice.

Some of the change here is that I have turned into a complete prick.

I have gone out of my way for many people in this community for over a dozen years.

However I am still waiting for one person to go out of their way for me.
I have even tried paying them.